The man and his money

Today's chapter in The Power to Prosper talked about Matrimonial Money. Not a chapter to skip for us single folk, but one that makes you think about the characteristics that you look for in a potential life-mate when it comes to their finances.

I know that this is something that women and men talk about everyday on some level. Women want a "six figga ___" and men want a woman that is "makin that money". That's usually about the extent of the conversation. Its about tangible finances and what your "ideal" mate would have in hand, in the bank, or in assets. And since we are so accustomed to creating lists of impossible characteristics that we mandate in a mate that really only keeps you in a state of perpetual singleness lists, then why not add some worthwhile characteristics to that list that might help us identify not only what is important to us, but the type of person that would compliment, contradict, or enhance our financial personalities.

I really have been blessed to date okgood guys. And for the most part, they have been money savy and financially smart. What's better is that they attempted impart some of this knowledge on me but I'm rather hard-headed . So my experiences with them, my guy friends, and people that I meet everyday cause me to look at the characteristics, not some laundry list of physical or status attribute, that I'd like in my life-mate. I know that it would not be wise for me to date someone with the same financial head as me. I'm a work in progress. Learning better and definitely doing better, BUT dating and potentially marrying someone who has my past mindset or relationship is surely a no go. I'm a spender (working on that) so marrying someone else who is a spender would lead to debt and financial ruin. I want someone who is financially responsible. One that doesn't mind spending more on somethings and less on others but considers the bigger picture as well. One that makes careful decisions. Someone who saves and invests to build wealth for the future. A man that values education and works to ensure that his children will not have to create debt to obtain an education. He would also be a tither and a giver. One that knows the principles of tithing and why and sees the importance of giving and sowing into others.

My little list is based in part on the vision I have for my future and what I'd like for it to look like. Each of these things point to another personality or character asset that my mate will have. But these are just my thoughts.

What's important to you in a mate? Does their financial handling matter to you?