WHAT did she say?

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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

No, he doesn't hate you black man...



WARNING: POTENTIAL SPOILERS


The black community has been buzzing about TP's "For Colored Girls" since it's debut this weekend. There's a great mix of love and hate going on about the movie. One great sentiment that I've seen from many men is that TP hates black men...and that shows through this movie. While he does tend to show some men in a negative light, he does also show stand-up guys too. Truthfully, I don't think he was showing hate towards anyone with For Colored Girls except Kimberly Elise as he clearly refuses to let this girl's hair be great .


What Perry did with this movie was not take a play verbatim and put it on camera. Yes, he took some creative liberty and introduced names and faces to these stories. What he also did was take the opportunity to spark a conversation about stories that we never really hear about until its too late. We don't talk about the woman who gets her arse beat everyday until the story of her death appears on the news. We didn't talk about brothas marrying women but "enjoying sex with men" until someone was bold enough to write a book about it and appear on Oprah. We don't talk about the many women who are pregnant and scared and find themselves in the hands of an unlicensed aborter who ends up damaging their bodies permanently. We don't talk about the shame associated with being young and pregnant and repeating generational cycles because in some circles teenage pregnancy is so accepted that we can't imagine that someone not want to have the baby and NOT know where to get the right information for safe procedures. We don't talk about how that untreated STD from that guy that you loved and was your first damaged you to the point that you can't build a future with your soul mate until all options have been exhausted. We overlook that so many women use their bodies to get the love back that someone stole from them when they violated their trust. We don't even really talk about the woman that lets a man in and out of her life over and over again just so that he can trample all over her heart and self esteem. We don't talk about date rape, because after all, you were on a date with the person, right?

So you mad cuz our dirty laundry is out in the open? Or are you mad because you looked on the screen and saw a glimpse of yourself? Are you mad because you didn't see yourself but you saw the face of someone you never reached out to because you are so consumed with your own life? Or do you simply hate that the movie wasn't taken verbatim from the play?


I truly think that people find the time to take issues with any and everything. This is clearly no different with "For Colored Girls". I thought the movie was great. Was it emotional? Yes. Did I leave feeling like I should consider suicide? No. It was a movie, and as EJC has pointed out...these aren't my plights. But I did leave with a certain feeling of empathy for the women and men who endure these situations, make these decisions, and live these lives everyday.


C'mon folks..what are your thoughts?

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Give blood..give life



I remember in high school when everyone would give blood and I always wanted to but I didn't meet the weight requirement. So I never actually gave blood until-TODAY! I meant to give on Saturday actually at the Health Expo at my church but I got really busy with other things that day, so when my co-worker (another first timer) mentioned going today I said...hellz yeah!

We walked over and I saw the snack tables (which was part of my motivation for going) and then the lady told us that we get a free lunch ticket since we came as buddies. This was shaping up to be a win. I answered all the questions and since I haven't had sex with someone in exchange for drugs or money since 1977....I was good to go.

Until I walked over the the blood giving bay and it looked like a sight out of one of those war movies when all of the soldiers are on cots hanging on for dear life. This one chick legitimately looked like she was goin' towards the light so I got a little nervous at the sight of her and all the the bump'or'curl do's handling the blood. To my surprise everything went smoothly though....well except for that JUMBO STRAW sized needle that they put in my arm which hurt throughout the entire process. But I gave my baggie of blood and tried not to freak out at the ghostly looking fellow who's experience wasn't so good. I got my cookies and chips and bounced.

So what did YOU do for someone else today?

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Birthday Getaway

The invites for our birthday trip have FINALLY gone out! I'm super excited for the trip and the pre-trip shopping. It also feels good to have one more thing checked off of my "to do" list. Ahhh...now to just remain patient until the time comes to escape into the water!