This is a question that I've posed to myself and many of my friends lately. I suppose, I should also pose it to the fellas too so that I can get your opinion (feel free to comment). I've even been looking at myself to see if there's something I'm sending out (pheromones) that attracts these needy guys.
My girlies always say "you're such a dude sometimes". What they mean is that the things that tend to annoy me about a guy are usually the things about women that annoy men. For example: neediness! A few of the guys that I've met recently have copped a 'tude about the lack of attention that I give. Not enough calls, not enough effort to hang out. Whatever. Here's the thing...I'm busy. I work-A LOT. When I'm not working...I'm out or sleeping. And I don't mind being out with you, but I don't want to spend ALL of my damn time with YOU. That's just not the kind of girl I am. Maybe I never noticed how needy men were before....and perhaps thats because I had more feelings for the person. Or maybe they had some life of their own and didn't sit with their phone in hand waiting on the caller id to show my name or pic. In the early stages of me getting to know you...don't expect a phone call every day. 1) I probably text more than I talk- it frees me up for multi-tasking and 2) I don't expect you to call everyday in the beginning. Maybe i'm just having one of my guy moments, but for goodness sake puhleez stop with the neediness. Honestly, it makes you seem a bit feminine to me. I want to date a man, someone who has enough of their own life that it doesn't hinge on me calling every 5 minutes or running to your house the minute the snow clears (I digress).
Guys...am I asking too much?
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Well I wouldn't describe myself as "needy" but if I'm really feeling someone I like to talk to them a lot. I do however try to be respectful of their time and other commitments. I think you shouldn't mistake desire for need. You want the man to want to talk to you a lot or hang with you a lot. Not need to talk to you or hang with you. I will say however it's very off-putting if you really like a girl and you're always the one calling/texting or suggesting dates. Cuz then you start to think she doesn't like you. And assuming you're a pretty decent man, then you start to explore other options. No need to go chasing after a woman that ain't tryna be caught.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't mistake desire for need if they weren't getting all fussy and delivering ultimatums and what not because I haven't called in a day.
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