I've been meaning to tell you...

So I haven’t been able to blog lately. Been busy. I decided to just put all of the things I’ve been wanting to say in one post. Like to hear it? Here it go.

While you “love your hair”( I love this little video BTW and the story behind it), I’ll be whipping my (permed) hair back and forth, k?
The funny thing is that a guy asked me to post about the natural hair crusaders. Apparently the fellas excluding the ones that refer to themselves as God or you as Queen and Nile River Princess are actually JUST as tired of hearing about the natural hair movement as I am. I get that some of you had unhealthy hair or decided to go au natural to get healthier hair. I do contest that you can have healthy hair either way if you know what you are doing, but that’s neither here or there. To these women, I have no qualms with you. But to those of you that are convinced that every sista with relaxed or otherwise processed hair has some type of self-hate issue…get over yourself. I love that people forget about the half of Africa where people have hair that is fine and straight. Not to mention the fact that my bloodline ain’t pure so maybe I’m embracing the “Indian” in me. Truthfully, I feel like so many chicks are doing it because it-like most other things they do- is a fad. Here’s a novel idea, do what works for you and let that be the reason for it. Puhleez don’t go holding your nose higher than someone else because you are ok with your kinky hair-mine is really curly, I choose to straighten it because it works for me!

When did yall get so needy?
This is a legit question of mine. Now perhaps every guy I’ve met lately has been used to women beatin’ down the door, blowin’ up their phone, and bustin’ windows out their car beggin’ for attention but here’s a newsflash: THAT AIN’T ME. Calling or texting me with the “I don’t pay you enough attention” line isn’t a way to get more attention from me. I can promise you that. Here’s a thought, maybe I really am busy. Or maybe I’m just not into you like that. Either way, you whining about it is not cute in the least bit. Sigh….

The “black woman” attitude
I’m sure by now we have all seen the “Black Marriage Negotiations” and all of the other videos along those lines. I think they are hilarious and sad all in the same right. I know women like this. They are my friends. I fear they will be single forever. You know women like this too. Honestly, think to yourself, if you were a guy…how many of your friends would you actually date? I know the number on my list is limited. These attitudes are getting on my nerve and I share the same hormone make-up as yall, I can only imagine how guys feel! Ladies, life isn’t that serious. Relax, breathe, chill, live in the moment for once. And un-frown your face! UGH! Maybe if you were more approachable, you’d find that the “there are no single, datable guys” thing is just a line that women use because they have made themselves so unapproachable that they repel any potential suitors. Or atleast someone wanting to “smang”. HA!

Cheater, Cheater....pumpkin eater...

Please forgive my childlike title but I work in pediatrics all day!

I came across this article at the New York Post about a woman who is obviously hurt by the ending of an affair that decided to get revenge in a BIG way. I sent the article to a male friend and his reply was "What's the deal with politicians not keeping their pants on?' My response was "What's the deal with MEN not keeping their pants on?" Now to be fair...for the most part there is also a woman involved and she shouldn't get off scott free either. Affairs are "all the rage" it seems. Every other day we are hearing of another famed person who has decided to step-out and see what they've been missing since they were in this committed relationship.

To be clear, I'm not a fan of cheating and I try not to judge because I don't know everyone's story (and you don't either). But I can not, for the life of me, understand why cheating seems like the thing to do. If you are someone who feels like you are gonna miss out on life by being in a relationship- then why not just save some people the heartache and the heartbreak and don't enter into those kinds of relationships. I don't think that every man that has cheated has had the intention to do so. Individual situations may have simply presented the opportunity. But for men (and women) who carry on these lifelong affairs...I just can't respect that. If you need to have a constant affair with a person over the course of YEARS then WHY are you still married? Are you that greedy and selfish that you must have it all? How much do you love your wife if you are willing to blatantly disrespect your union? And for the mistress...why is it so easy to have no regards for another woman's relationship. Is it really THAT good? Do you honestly think that you are going to get a lifelong, loving and committed relationship out of this in the end? (I know this does happen in some cases) But honestly, these situations often leave the wife and the mistress hurt...leading to busted windows, slashed tires, and GIGANTIC billboards!

I guess I'd rather you take your time and be sure that this is what you want before committing than feeling the need to pressure into doing something you aren't ready for. Maybe its just me...